In the moment
If someone challenges you
You do not have to justify yourself to another member of the public. It is generally the organisation, rather than individual customers or visitors, that is responsible for managing access to its facilities. Staff should not require you to disclose such information in public, or if the language or manner of a request is rude, combative or offensive to you.
If a staff member raises an issue about you being in a bathroom or other space, try to remain calm and ask to speak to a manager. Front-line staff are not always authorised to make decisions about access, and asking for the issue to be escalated may help ensure it is dealt with more appropriately.
If someone is filming or photographing you
If someone is filming or photographing you, you can ask them to stop and explain that you do not consent to being photographed or recorded. You can also ask them to delete any images or footage they have taken.
This may be especially appropriate in places where people would normally expect privacy, such as bathrooms or changing facilities. If they don’t stop, consider seeking assistance from staff, security or venue management rather than handling it alone.
Prioritise getting somewhere safe over resolving things on the spot. Your immediate safety and physical wellbeing are the most important thing.
If it turns into harassment, threats or violence
If you experience threats, intimidation, violence, stalking or other conduct that may amount to a criminal offence, consider reporting it to the police. You can also report incidents anonymously through the True Vision hate crime reporting service.
If you are in immediate danger, contact the emergency services on 999.
If you’re with someone this happens to
Do your best to stay calm and, if it feels safe to do so, stand near the person and ask if they’re okay. Sometimes having someone alongside them can help de-escalate a situation.
You could offer to stay with them and/or walk out together. If it’s safe, make a note of what happened and you can consider recording events. Afterwards, ask what they’d like help with, rather than making assumptions. They may want practical assistance or simply someone to stay with.